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Be Healthier Through Gratitude

Posted on Nov 19, 2013 | 1 comment

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Our brains are hardwired to pay attention to the negative, and for good reason. Our ancestors who were alert, watchful and worried, survived. Those who weren’t got eaten. But today our DNA’s disposition puts us into a state of unnecessary chronic stress – stress that raises our blood pressure, causes anxiety or depression, and hurts our health in many ways.

“To survive better in our 21st century lives, it’s important to learn to react less automatically and negatively to the stresses that bombard us. We can do this by practicing skills that increase our capacity for appreciation, and for calming our bodies and minds,” says Renée Burgard, LCSW, a psychotherapist who teaches mindfulness and stress reduction classes at the Palo Alto Medical Foundation and at Silicon Valley companies such as Google and Apple.

How? One way is to cultivate an “attitude of gratitude.” Gratitude is about more than saying “thanks,” Burgard says. “Gratitude is paying attention to what we have, and cultivating a heart-felt sense of appreciation for it.” In short, it’s rewiring your brain to counteract the negativity bias by paying attention to what’s positive.

Research shows that people who focus on gratitude feel better, sleep better and are less likely to feel depressed. They’re also more generous to others. And, in studies of adolescents, they’re happier in school.

But you can’t just snap your fingers and feel gratitude. “It’s important not to force it,” Burgard says. “Instead, pay attention to what you appreciate, and what you feel thankful for. It takes practice.” Here are three simple ways to get started.

What’s Not Wrong? When you’re tense or upset, ask yourself, “What’s not wrong?” This practice, from the Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, helps you find the good in your life during hard times. You may be insanely busy on a project, but you have work that you enjoy. You may be fighting with your spouse, but you have a shared family you love. No matter what the situation, stop for a minute to consider what’s not wrong. “It’s hard to access gratitude sometimes,” Burgard says. “What’s not wrong is a bridge to gratitude. It’s a way to think about positive things in our lives without forcing it.”

Three Good Things. “Each night before you go to sleep, think of three good things (or ‘not wrong’ things) that happened that day,” Burgard says. “Write them down, and spend a little time reflecting on what brought those things into your life.” This is a classic gratitude practice that helps you pay attention to the positive in your life.

Take in the Good. This practice is from Rick Hanson, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist who just published the book Hardwiring Happiness. Think back to a positive experience, and remember everything you can about it. Relive it in your mind. Breathe in deeply, taking in the pleasantness. Then breathe out and imagine you’re sending the pleasantness to every cell of your body. “By focusing on and staying with a pleasant memory, you’re rewiring your brain,” Burgard says. “Remember, our brains are Velcro for negative and Teflon for positive. You need to stay with pleasant memories and events to make them stick.”

If you’re glued to your smart phone, you can take your gratitude practice with you wherever you go. Try Gratitude! or Live Happy on the iPhone, or the Attitude for Gratitude Journal on Android smart phones. There are many others — most are inexpensive or free — so check around.

And if you’re inclined to dismiss the gratitude movement as psychobabble, take a moment to reconsider. “Paying attention just once a day to what you appreciate is enough to have an effect on your life,” Burgard says. “There’s science behind it. Gratitude is a way to open the door to more happiness.”

 

 

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One Comment

  1. My Dr. recommended me to take stress program at PAMF. I did. It gave me new stress free life. I can sleep through the night and live stress free mindful life. Thank you for the program and thank you Renee giving my family and me a new life. I’m great full :)

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